Studies have consistently shown that women are more likely to file for divorce more than men. In fact, nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women. That’s according to a research study conducted by the American Sociological Association (ASA) which suggests that two thirds of all divorces are initiated by women. Among college educated women, that figure jumps to 90 percent.
Is it because women tend to fare better after divorce, as the courts are usually more favorable to them, especially In the USA? They get to keep almost everything, the house, car, children, even the dog, leaving the man with nothing.
In most cases it’s the man who foots the lion’s share of the bills, mortgage or rent, utilities, school fees etc. yet when she divorces, she’s not instructed by the court to continue giving the man romance and affection, but he has to continue with his financial obligations in perpetuity.
There are so many stories of women marrying wealthy men and entering the union with nothing , then divorcing the man after two years and walking away with millions.
But still, women tend to get married more than men do. In fact, women will get married multiple times, far more than men. Is it because they know that divorce favours them, and even if they do so multiple times, they are the ones who benefit. Can you just imagine a man divorcing three times and having to pay alimony, maintenance and such to three ex wives? He’d end up in the poorhouse.
So, why do women get divorced more than men do? One theory is that many women are never satisfied and are always looking for something or someone better, even when they’re already married.
So even as she’s with the man, she’s just biding her time and on the lookout for someone or something better to come along. Many times you’ll hear a wife say this about her husband, “Oh, he’s okay, but deep down I know that I could have done better.”
Still, there are legitimate and tangible reasons why women divorce, with one being abuse, that scourge that is of pandemic proportions, as many women are victims of physical abuse from their men.
That being said, physical abuse accounts for only 20 percent of divorces, with infidelity being higher.
There’s emotional abuse, which is often as powerful as the physical kind, and women will leave for that reason too. But apart from those cliché obvious reasons, many women leave marriages for other seemingly innocuous invisible intangible yet very real reasons.
It’s been suggested that a woman often compares relationships, so the current man who she’s involved with is merely just another rung on her ladder. He is often compared to the previous men who she was involved with, so if he seems to fall short and doesn’t measure up to her ex or exes, it’s goodbye.
Some women may verbalize it, “You will never be the man that my ex was,” while others may not say it, but they’ll mentally compare. The question is though, if those exes were so great, why are they exes?
So at times the current guy will sense a glacial drifting away from her as she becomes distant, cold, aloof, just like the iceberg, with the tip showing some of the problem, but the larger issues laying beneath the surface, submerged but serious and ominous.
“I just found myself disliking him more and more every day and didn’t even know why.” “Everything he did annoyed me, so I had to find a way out.”
The clinical research says that many wives feel held back by marriage, and the statistics of 90 percent of college educated women getting divorced corroborates those findings. If the woman feels that she’s basically better than the man and she can survive without him, then she’s gone.
That being said, it’s very rarely that you’ll see an uneducated woman of a lower socio economic class leaving her man.
But what about the men, why do men get divorced? Well, many men will tend to remain in the relationship despite the problems. So even if the man is not satisfied, fulfilled or happy in the marriage, he’ll remain, but seek those pleasures elsewhere.
So even though women tend to divorce more than men do, many men have the ability to leave the relationship not on a physical level, but on an emotional one.
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