As the old saying goes, trust no shadow after dark. Remember what Julius Caesar said as he was stabbed multiple times by those around him, ‘Et tu Brutus?’ You too Brutus, referring to his closest ally and friend Brutus, who applied the death blow.
‘Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none,’ is a quote from Shakespeare, and the Bible says, ‘Put not thy faith in man,’ and ‘The heart of man is desperately wicked.’ That may seem to be an indictment on all men and women, it’s not, but sadly it has been proven to be true more than often.
Now when people say that they don’t trust, it doesn’t mean that they think that everyone is up to no good, but they do think that everyone has their own self interest at heart and looks out for themselves first, and that’s where the mistrust comes into play. The law says that you’re innocent until proven guilty, but some say that you’re guilty until proven innocent. It’s a sort of protection against getting hurt.
So often we may have heard of people going abroad, working hard for many years in the freezing cold, sending money back home to construct a house, only to have all that money spent by the trusted partner, who frittered it away on their own self interest.
Prior to that, the person was a most trusted family member, perhaps a spouse, but when that steady flow of cash kept on coming, the temptation was just too great to resist. “I thought that I could trust her, but she robbed me blind,” is what’s usually said after acts like that.
But it’s when it comes to relationships that the matter of trust really comes into being. After all, a relationship is based on love, loyalty, respect and trust, and as most people have experienced, trust is the overriding factor.
Of course that goes for workers too, for if you have a domestic helper, babysitter, security person, mechanic, doctor, trust is what is of utmost importance.
But back to trust in relationships, for that has been the downfall of many couples who put too much trust in each other, blindly. Is it wise to say that you trust your spouse one hundred percent? Isn’t it better to say that, “Of course I trust my wife/husband, but I wouldn’t put my neck on the block and swear blind.” Remember, people are people, and very often that person may just slip and slide down that slippery slope and do what is considered out of character. Ha, out of
character indeed, all that he wanted was the opportunity and wham bam, thank you ma’am, there he slides, down the salacious slope of seduction.
And yet there are people who will swear that they trust their partner one hundred percent. Others will sniff and scrutinize him when he comes home at night.
Would you leave your spouse in the company of your best friend to spend the night together, or to go on a weekend retreat and share the same room? “Hey Marie, I’m going away for a week, can you stay with my husband while I’m gone?”
Nevertheless, trust is important, for without it we are most unfortunate. The fact is though, when trust is broken, it can never be redeemed.
“I know that he cheated on me, but I never thought that he’d do it again. ‘Once bitten twice shy. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
No one is saying that you’re to walk around with a magnifying glass scrutinizing, questioning all motives and mistrusting everyone, as that would be a terrible way to live. But just be careful and cautious when dealing with fellow human beings and don’t lay yourself careless.
So all those who are chiding those who mistrust for their stance, do you wonder where your partner is late at night, smell for perfume or cologne, check their cell phone? Mistrust exists.
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