Recently while at a dinner gathering, this lady got up and extolled the virtues of her husband for all to hear. She finished each sentence by saying, “I married well, I married well.” It was so heartwarming to hear a woman speak so glowingly of her husband, as so many women seem to be always cussing and chastising their husbands, privately or in public. She clearly is one who men should marry.
But it goes even further than that, for at times it’s difficult to discern who is marriage material and who is not.
Just like that lady, a man would love to say of his wife, “I married well.” The fact is though, men are often blinded by beauty, and as long as the woman is pretty, then he’ll marry her.
The terms beautiful bride and arm candy come to mind, as many men are content to have a pretty woman on their arm as a wife even though nothing else is happening in other areas.
But caveat emptor, the Greeks say, buyer beware, for there are many pitfalls and dangers that come with marrying the wrong person. The term ‘unequally yoked’ from the Bible should not be scoffed at, but taken seriously. As should be the words from the song, ‘Take time to know her son, take time to know her.’
It was also Shakespeare who penned, ‘Marry in haste and repent at leisure.’ So before you even make a hasty decision, there are some indicators that should be heeded.
Firstly, don’t marry a woman who wants you to be her retirement plan after she’s played the field, partied hard and been involved with a host of different men. A man should do his due diligence and find out about her past before he plans to marry her.
He should know by the heightened interest that she has in him, that her intentions are not in his best interest, but in hers. It borders on desperation.
After all that running around, she now expects a man, older of course, to marry her and take care of her needs, wants and whatever else, until debt do they part.
Do not marry a woman who has too many children. Any man who marries a woman with multiple children had better be prepared for challenges to come. Of course it’s okay to marry a woman who has one child, as many of those unions work out beautifully, with that child bonding with and accepting the stepdad as its own father. But that multiple children scenario often spells disaster.
He will pay through his nose, financially and emotionally, and sometimes be verbally abused by those children if he dares to reprimand them. Would you let your son marry a woman with four children for four different fathers?
Do not marry a woman who is older than you. The same applies to marrying a woman who is too young, for that age difference can prove to be a huge problem.
But somehow it seems much worse when the man marries a woman who is older than he is. The experts suggest an age difference of say, three to seven years with the man being older of course.
But to marry a woman who is older is absolutely not recommended. After a while she’ll not only look like his mother but act like she is too. The French president Macron has been getting a hard time from the press and from onlookers because he married his former teacher.
In 1993 at the age of 39, she met the 15 year old Emmanuel Macron in La Providence high school where she was teaching and he was a student and a classmate of her daughter. Do the math, it just doesn’t add up.
Do not marry any ugly woman if her mother is ugly too, for it means that the ugly genes are consistent and your children will be ugly too. .
Of course, there are men who women should not marry, but I have found that many women will accept almost any man if he has money. They will overlook the faults just to be able to have a suitable high end material lifestyle. How often we’ve seen beautiful young women with old men who look like a bullfrog and the remark always is, ”He must have money.” But again, caveat emptor.
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